YOU CAN MAKE IT

Most African children are brought up in a way that their parents are like small gods to them.  When your mum or dad calls you, you immediately stop whatever you are doing and run to them. Whatever they say is right and you are always wrong whenever it comes to an argument. We are not to look our parents in the eyes, we kneel down when giving them anything. When they come home from work you run to welcome them and ask them what they want to eat. 

As you start going to school, your teachers are the small gods now. They cain you for coming late to school, failure to do homework, failure to pass an exam and any other activity that is deemed indiscipline to them. Eventually we grow up with a lot of fear and low self esteem and at the end of it all we are still to blame. Most parents do not try to build our self esteem, some actually just make us believe that we are stupid.

Everything is about books even when you try to show your parents your talents they will still bring back the topic to books. They will be like, “Bring your report card and I have a look at it”. This just spoils the mood, not everyone was meant to find success through books. It is important to have those educational documents but it is no use if someone does not want it. I believe that it is better for someone to do something they have love and passion for.

When you open up to someone and tell them your career dreams and expect them to encourage you and give you guidance and they instead discourage you. You become closed minded and discouraged. You feel like you have been crushed. You end up not knowing what step to take in your life. Constant failure in school does not mean you are stupid but if the people around us make us believe we are stupid, we end up believing that we are actually stupid. God gave us a lot of skills, we just have to know how and where to apply our skills. 

THAT MOMENT

That moment when you feel invincible

You become so daring

You make all the wrong decisions

People that love you are hurt

                                                

That moment when you become fearless

Nothing scares you

Your heart is calm at all times

The fear of God escapes you

That moment when nothing matters

You bleed but feel no pain

You look death straight in the face

Life is meaningless

That moment when you have no feelings

Your humanity is switched off

You are capable of watching someone die

That is when you have lost yourself.

SOMETIMES LOVE IS NOT ALL THAT MATTERS

We all have those moments when we really annoy our parents and almost make them lose faith in us. Sometimes we may not do it intentionally, unaware of the consequences that will befall our actions. In one way or another, God made us have that special connection with our parents. We may be connected by blood but the events we go through in life with our parents strengthens the bond. However much a relationship with a parent may not be that good, the love still exists.

There are children that have been abandoned by their biological parents but when they grow up and eventually meet their parents, they still have that love. Obviously at first sight you will feel a lot of hatred and range for that parent who abandoned you. As children we drive our parents crazy with all the outrageous things we do. But it is simple, we are all from different generations and each generation has its norms. Most times our parents fail to understand why we do some things and most times the answer is simple “peer pressure”.

Most people succumb to the pressure from peers and easily indulge in whatever activity they are being introduced to. Most of us want to be considered as cool and updated so we easily succumb to pressure from peers. That is the main reason why when our parents criticize us for what we do, we call them “outdated”. But in actual sense they are not “outdated”, they are older than us and have further experience. They see further than we do and fear for the consequences to befall us “their beloved children”.

There comes a moment in life when you have wronged your parents so much that they have completely given up on you. But it is still their obligation to take care of you, sometimes the love may disappear but they have that God given obligation to look after their children. We can not blame our parents for behaving the way they do, sometimes they really do not know what to do with us. They are human beings like us and have feelings. Every parent’s constant worry is the welfare of their children however old you may be. So please do not take your parents love for you for granted because in the end they are all you really have.

SAD THINGS ARE A GREAT MOTIVATION

Everybody has something that motivates them, music, art, anger, people they love, people they hate, people that hate them, sad moments, happy moments and many other things. There are a lot of things that happen in our lives and the best motivation comes from the bad experiences. Losing a loved one, being brought up by a single parent, being abandoned, being discriminated, being brought up in an environment where there is no love, just to mention a few.

Most of the people that have been brought up in a harsh environment are successful people. I know a lot of children that are orphans and because of this they work extremely hard in school especially if they know that they cannot rely on their guardians and relatives. When you lack a lot of things while you are growing up, it acts as a motivation to make you work hard, to get everything you desire. Especially kids that grow up in boarding school and are exposed to the company of rich kids that have everything they need.

We all have those moments when we feel sad and alone due to circumstances. These days friends are not friends, people are not who they play out to be. When you think you have friends and need them, they turn away from you the moment you are in need. That is when you realize who your true friends are, the person you least expect, the person you took for granted will be the one to help you. I am not saying having friends is bad, having friends is good. They all play a great role in your life, some are a blessing and some are a lesson.

I personally love all the people that I used to call friends and are a lesson in my life. Those people play a great role in molding us into what we are. As we grow older we realize that life becomes harder because everyone has their issues and these issues make people become desperate. They become users, opportunists and hypocrites. And that is where all our sad moments come in because the people we thought love and care about us actually do not. I prefer to think of all sad things as a blessing because they are a motivation. Out of every bad thing comes a good thing.