This Tuesday, I think I actually had one of my best
chapel days. We had separate chapel for ladies and gentlemen,… and honestly the
ladies chapel this Tuesday was fruitful and very educative. The greatest women
in our “Daystar community” came up to talk to us on various topics concerning
being a woman. They talked about the dressing, if the thought of changing our
sexuality has ever crossed our minds and a woman’s emotional strength. Of
course we could have talked about much more but time was limited.
The thought of changing my sexuality has crossed my
mind more than once because I could not stand the pain that came with going
through my monthly periods. There are moments when I cannot leave home because
the pain is simply unbearable and if I forced myself to go about my day
normally I would get so dizzy to the extent that I thought I was going to pass
out. But I did not, I survived through all these months and years. Sometimes
the pain killers just do not work but strong black tea did help and when I started
doing vigorous exercises, it worked much better. I could go through my monthly
periods without much pain,.. pain I could tolerate.
Every woman’s body is different, we all cope with
the pain in different ways,… and for some women the pain is worse so I thank
God every day. The pain that comes with giving birth is another thing that I
fear,… but I thank God that I fear it because it has kept me in check. These
are moments when you can even surrender to God and offer him to take you
because of the pain. Women should not be taken for granted because they really
deal with a lot of pain. But some women are lucky, they do not experience this
pain in excruciating detail.
Most people like to say, “Dress the way, you wish to
be addressed”. And this is true because men are visual, they will fall in love
with looks but it is character that makes them stay. If you dress in a skimpy
and suggestive way, there is a certain type of people you will attract… like
the “hit and run type” and rapists. But if you are dressed in a modest way, you
will attract only the right people, people meant to cross your path. Most times
we blame people for our own faults, everything that happens to us and the kind
of people we encounter, we attract by virtue of our thoughts, character and dressing.
So, ladies before you walk out that door, look in the mirror and if you are
honestly pleased with what you see… then go ahead.
Women are strong emotionally and can keep a great
deal of pain in their hearts but this is only for a short amount of time,
eventually everyone breaks down and it is normal to breakdown. Talking and
crying is a remedy, a therapy for women to deal with their issues and move on.
Men may take it as gossip but it is actually therapy, talking helps women to
unload their problems and share them with a friend or spouse. And after talking
we feel much better because the burden is lighter, all we needed was someone to
listen. Women deal with a lot of emotional pain but at the end of the day,…
they still find the strength to carry on with their lives.
