A BLESSING; BEING A WOMAN

This Tuesday, I think I actually had one of my best chapel days. We had separate chapel for ladies and gentlemen,… and honestly the ladies chapel this Tuesday was fruitful and very educative. The greatest women in our “Daystar community” came up to talk to us on various topics concerning being a woman. They talked about the dressing, if the thought of changing our sexuality has ever crossed our minds and a woman’s emotional strength. Of course we could have talked about much more but time was limited. 

The thought of changing my sexuality has crossed my mind more than once because I could not stand the pain that came with going through my monthly periods. There are moments when I cannot leave home because the pain is simply unbearable and if I forced myself to go about my day normally I would get so dizzy to the extent that I thought I was going to pass out. But I did not, I survived through all these months and years. Sometimes the pain killers just do not work but strong black tea did help and when I started doing vigorous exercises, it worked much better. I could go through my monthly periods without much pain,.. pain I could tolerate. 

Every woman’s body is different, we all cope with the pain in different ways,… and for some women the pain is worse so I thank God every day. The pain that comes with giving birth is another thing that I fear,… but I thank God that I fear it because it has kept me in check. These are moments when you can even surrender to God and offer him to take you because of the pain. Women should not be taken for granted because they really deal with a lot of pain. But some women are lucky, they do not experience this pain in excruciating detail. 

Most people like to say, “Dress the way, you wish to be addressed”. And this is true because men are visual, they will fall in love with looks but it is character that makes them stay. If you dress in a skimpy and suggestive way, there is a certain type of people you will attract… like the “hit and run type” and rapists. But if you are dressed in a modest way, you will attract only the right people, people meant to cross your path. Most times we blame people for our own faults, everything that happens to us and the kind of people we encounter, we attract by virtue of our thoughts, character and dressing. So, ladies before you walk out that door, look in the mirror and if you are honestly pleased with what you see… then go ahead.

Women are strong emotionally and can keep a great deal of pain in their hearts but this is only for a short amount of time, eventually everyone breaks down and it is normal to breakdown. Talking and crying is a remedy, a therapy for women to deal with their issues and move on. Men may take it as gossip but it is actually therapy, talking helps women to unload their problems and share them with a friend or spouse. And after talking we feel much better because the burden is lighter, all we needed was someone to listen. Women deal with a lot of emotional pain but at the end of the day,… they still find the strength to carry on with their lives.