DO NOT JUDGE ME

We live in a world with all kinds of different people, but some people are so uniquely made that they stand out at some point in their lives. All our lives we are surrounded by people who love and care about us, friends, family and relatives. But they do not know us, they just know what we choose to show them. Nobody knows anyone’s motives or aim in life in anything that they strive to do. You can never claim to know anyone too well because you do not know their thoughts and feelings.

Most of our friends will claim to know us so well because they spend most of their time with us. They are quick to judge us for the things we do without knowing our intentions. You can never know someone’s intentions if they never tell you. All our friends are attracted to us for reasons best known to them. Some may be genuine friends and most are fake friends. There is a reason why we are brought into this world alone, because however much we may surround ourselves with many people in the end we are alone.

Someone once told me that what I write about in my blogs contradicts what I do. Well, all I can say is do not do as I do but do as I say. You can either take it or leave it, there is a reason why some people may read my blog and others may not. I would personally never judge anyone because everyone has a reason why they act and do the things they do, it is easier to try and understand and appreciate someone than to judge them.

I may ask a lot of various people for advice just with an aim to see how good or bad their intentions are for me. It is always good never to let people know so much about you, only choose to show them what they should. Keeping your life a secret is the best way to live peacefully because it is only you who knows what exactly you want out of life. Everyone comes with their own baggage, so before you judge someone try to understand that person and imagine what you would do if you were in their shoes. Act human if you want to equally want to be treated as a human.

YOU CAN MAKE IT

Most African children are brought up in a way that their parents are like small gods to them.  When your mum or dad calls you, you immediately stop whatever you are doing and run to them. Whatever they say is right and you are always wrong whenever it comes to an argument. We are not to look our parents in the eyes, we kneel down when giving them anything. When they come home from work you run to welcome them and ask them what they want to eat. 

As you start going to school, your teachers are the small gods now. They cain you for coming late to school, failure to do homework, failure to pass an exam and any other activity that is deemed indiscipline to them. Eventually we grow up with a lot of fear and low self esteem and at the end of it all we are still to blame. Most parents do not try to build our self esteem, some actually just make us believe that we are stupid.

Everything is about books even when you try to show your parents your talents they will still bring back the topic to books. They will be like, “Bring your report card and I have a look at it”. This just spoils the mood, not everyone was meant to find success through books. It is important to have those educational documents but it is no use if someone does not want it. I believe that it is better for someone to do something they have love and passion for.

When you open up to someone and tell them your career dreams and expect them to encourage you and give you guidance and they instead discourage you. You become closed minded and discouraged. You feel like you have been crushed. You end up not knowing what step to take in your life. Constant failure in school does not mean you are stupid but if the people around us make us believe we are stupid, we end up believing that we are actually stupid. God gave us a lot of skills, we just have to know how and where to apply our skills.