THE CRUSHING WEIGHT OF A PARENT'S EXPECTATIONS

Children will always be children, only until they realize that they have dreams of their own to fulfill. A parent can only do as much as to bring up a child the right way and trust that the child knows the difference between right and wrong. The story only becomes sad when a parent cannot trust that a child knows what he or she is doing. Every child does as much as he or she can to meet the expectations of the parent, they say nothing is impossible but some things are impossible if it is not your heart’s desire.

While some children will do everything in their power to destroy you, others will wilt under the crushing weight of your expectations and some will become parents themselves. You know we all disapprove of teenage pregnancy but some things are beyond our control. Children only become rebellious when they have tried their best to tell you and show you the path they want for themselves but a parent chooses to have the child go in the path they desire for them. That is when you hear words like, “you are a disappointment and shame to the family”.

Many children choose to wilt under the crushing weight of a parent’s expectations because they see a harder life without the parents support. Life always has its ups and downs, the easiest path does not always guarantee happiness but when you fight to get what you want, it gives you satisfaction in the end because you will be at peace with yourself and happy for what you have achieved. People may desert you in the beginning but they start to come around after they have understood that you were only striving for success.

When you have children of your own you start to understand why parents behave the way they do. They only wish their children to have the best in life but they forget that in all that over protectiveness they are hurting the child and limiting them from achieving their dreams. Some parents do not understand that a simple time spent to listen to the child and try to look at life from their perspective could change things and build a mutual healthy relationship. Every relationship is the same, people need to be reminded that they are loved.