YOU CAN MAKE IT

Most African children are brought up in a way that their parents are like small gods to them.  When your mum or dad calls you, you immediately stop whatever you are doing and run to them. Whatever they say is right and you are always wrong whenever it comes to an argument. We are not to look our parents in the eyes, we kneel down when giving them anything. When they come home from work you run to welcome them and ask them what they want to eat. 

As you start going to school, your teachers are the small gods now. They cain you for coming late to school, failure to do homework, failure to pass an exam and any other activity that is deemed indiscipline to them. Eventually we grow up with a lot of fear and low self esteem and at the end of it all we are still to blame. Most parents do not try to build our self esteem, some actually just make us believe that we are stupid.

Everything is about books even when you try to show your parents your talents they will still bring back the topic to books. They will be like, “Bring your report card and I have a look at it”. This just spoils the mood, not everyone was meant to find success through books. It is important to have those educational documents but it is no use if someone does not want it. I believe that it is better for someone to do something they have love and passion for.

When you open up to someone and tell them your career dreams and expect them to encourage you and give you guidance and they instead discourage you. You become closed minded and discouraged. You feel like you have been crushed. You end up not knowing what step to take in your life. Constant failure in school does not mean you are stupid but if the people around us make us believe we are stupid, we end up believing that we are actually stupid. God gave us a lot of skills, we just have to know how and where to apply our skills. 

THAT MOMENT

That moment when you feel invincible

You become so daring

You make all the wrong decisions

People that love you are hurt

                                                

That moment when you become fearless

Nothing scares you

Your heart is calm at all times

The fear of God escapes you

That moment when nothing matters

You bleed but feel no pain

You look death straight in the face

Life is meaningless

That moment when you have no feelings

Your humanity is switched off

You are capable of watching someone die

That is when you have lost yourself.

SOMETIMES LOVE IS NOT ALL THAT MATTERS

We all have those moments when we really annoy our parents and almost make them lose faith in us. Sometimes we may not do it intentionally, unaware of the consequences that will befall our actions. In one way or another, God made us have that special connection with our parents. We may be connected by blood but the events we go through in life with our parents strengthens the bond. However much a relationship with a parent may not be that good, the love still exists.

There are children that have been abandoned by their biological parents but when they grow up and eventually meet their parents, they still have that love. Obviously at first sight you will feel a lot of hatred and range for that parent who abandoned you. As children we drive our parents crazy with all the outrageous things we do. But it is simple, we are all from different generations and each generation has its norms. Most times our parents fail to understand why we do some things and most times the answer is simple “peer pressure”.

Most people succumb to the pressure from peers and easily indulge in whatever activity they are being introduced to. Most of us want to be considered as cool and updated so we easily succumb to pressure from peers. That is the main reason why when our parents criticize us for what we do, we call them “outdated”. But in actual sense they are not “outdated”, they are older than us and have further experience. They see further than we do and fear for the consequences to befall us “their beloved children”.

There comes a moment in life when you have wronged your parents so much that they have completely given up on you. But it is still their obligation to take care of you, sometimes the love may disappear but they have that God given obligation to look after their children. We can not blame our parents for behaving the way they do, sometimes they really do not know what to do with us. They are human beings like us and have feelings. Every parent’s constant worry is the welfare of their children however old you may be. So please do not take your parents love for you for granted because in the end they are all you really have.

SAD THINGS ARE A GREAT MOTIVATION

Everybody has something that motivates them, music, art, anger, people they love, people they hate, people that hate them, sad moments, happy moments and many other things. There are a lot of things that happen in our lives and the best motivation comes from the bad experiences. Losing a loved one, being brought up by a single parent, being abandoned, being discriminated, being brought up in an environment where there is no love, just to mention a few.

Most of the people that have been brought up in a harsh environment are successful people. I know a lot of children that are orphans and because of this they work extremely hard in school especially if they know that they cannot rely on their guardians and relatives. When you lack a lot of things while you are growing up, it acts as a motivation to make you work hard, to get everything you desire. Especially kids that grow up in boarding school and are exposed to the company of rich kids that have everything they need.

We all have those moments when we feel sad and alone due to circumstances. These days friends are not friends, people are not who they play out to be. When you think you have friends and need them, they turn away from you the moment you are in need. That is when you realize who your true friends are, the person you least expect, the person you took for granted will be the one to help you. I am not saying having friends is bad, having friends is good. They all play a great role in your life, some are a blessing and some are a lesson.

I personally love all the people that I used to call friends and are a lesson in my life. Those people play a great role in molding us into what we are. As we grow older we realize that life becomes harder because everyone has their issues and these issues make people become desperate. They become users, opportunists and hypocrites. And that is where all our sad moments come in because the people we thought love and care about us actually do not. I prefer to think of all sad things as a blessing because they are a motivation. Out of every bad thing comes a good thing.

LOYALTY

Remember that saying, about the world being round, it’s true and best practical example is the way how women are slowly taking over the world. Whether you see it or not, accept it or not, it is happening and it is slowly picking pace. Men have dominated the world for too long and subjected women to a lot of things. In the past, as a girl your parents made the decision of whom you should marry and bear children with. All this was done for the parents benefit, bride price was given to them and the girl child would not even get a portion of that bride price. That was how bad it was but with time this practice has phased out.

They say money is not everything but in the world we live in today, money is everything. It is funny how a man can promise a girl heaven on earth even when he has nothing. When reality hits and they are married with no money, frustration and anger kicks in and life becomes unbearable. Yes, there will be some happy times but the bad times will outweigh the good times and the picture would have been different if they had money. Sad fact is a woman will leave a poor man to be with a rich man whether she loves him or not. Simply because the society today is all about status and the poor life is too hard to live. Who does not love a simple life?

Men had their time to play with women’s hearts and break them and in all this time women were trying to be loyal. Now the tables have turned, women are playing with men’s hearts and breaking them without even a second thought. I actually do not blame them, I know it is bad. But truth is some women have been through a lot and taken a lot of crap in their lives, so before you call a woman “cold”, “heartless” or “a bitch”, you do not know half of what she has been through. I am not in support of the disloyalty but I think most men saw it coming. These days women have their ways of getting money whether good or bad means, it has given them power to have confidence and get what they desire.

I guess most of you have heard those stories of how a man will finance a girl’s studies simply because he loves her. And in the end when she has graduated from university and  acquired a good paying job, that’s it she forgets the man who has brought her that far and goes for the man she wants. True women are not loyal, they may promise and act like saints but they will not think twice about breaking a boys heart and moving on. No offense but men are like dogs, if you treat him right and love him the way he wants, he will be loyal so women should not blame their disloyalty on a man, they had a choice. Not all women are disloyal some are loyal but I guarantee you that they are few.

A FEW SECONDS

Life does not always go the way we want, we do not always get what we want. It is funny how a few seconds can change your entire life. A few seconds of you being involved in an accident can change your whole life. You might end up losing your leg, arm or any other part of your body, even worse some people get amnesia. A few seconds of you engaging in a conversation with your friends, spouse, mentor, or just a stranger can change your life. Whoever it might be, one of the people that you engage in a conversation with might say something that will give you the answers you have been looking for, that is when things start to make perfect sense to you. Even a few second s of you screwing around could change your life. You might end up getting pregnant, or contracting a deadly disease, or worse you might lose your life. 

All these things create a difference in your life, it might be slight or big but in the end it all creates a difference. Some people end up becoming very bitter and withdrawn from the people that care and love them, this is common with people who are involved in accidents. They feel lost, confused, they lose the confidence they once had, life just becomes meaningless for them. Some become very aware of the people around them, they take caution of what they say and how they behave. It is hard for them to trust. Many of our friends pretend to care yet in actual sense they do not give a shit. They are our friends because we have something that they want and can be of a benefit to them. When you are a failure in life nobody wants to be associated with you, but when you are somebody even your worst enemy will pretend to know you.

 A few seconds is all it takes for you to realize what is actually going on around you, it can either make you or break you. A person may say just a sentence that will make perfect sense to you, you will realize that the answers were right in front of you the whole time. Sometimes the people we love leave us without giving us a clear reason, it might be our patterns of behavior, the way we treat them, envy, or something we said some time back. It is easy to ask for forgiveness and be forgiven, but it is truly hard to forget. Sometimes we do not think about the consequences of our actions on others, most of us are selfish and only think of ourselves. The things we do affect the people that love and care about us. 

Not everybody in our lives wish us the best, a good number of them wait to see our downfall. The world is filled with so much hate, envy and jealousy, that is why there is a lot of competition in everything. To survive in this world you have to be strong, confident, focused, a fighter and most of all have a positive mind and attitude towards every thing that comes your way. Because the truth is people are there to put you down, make fun of you, talk about you and do anything to see that you are not successful. It is up to you to be strong and fight to the end for what you want. We all create our own destiny. A few seconds in our lives is all it takes to change our destiny, anything can happen in a few seconds. Think before you act.